Funerals and Memorials

The death of a loved one, even after a long life well-lived, is painful. It is sad but a privilege for us to conduct a funeral or memorial service for you. Often your first contact will have been with the Funeral Director but the Vicar here is willing to speak to you at any time. He is also willing to meet with those who would like help planning their own funeral at any stage in life.

The Funeral

The funeral will be shaped by a number of factors, including:

  • the wishes of the deceased
  • whether it is to be a burial or cremationand
  • whether there will be a church service.

Neither family, nor the deceased, need to be regular worshippers or resident in the parish to have a service in church. To be buried or to have cremated remains interred in the churchyard does depend on residency and place of death. The Vicar can advise.

The booklet below is designed to answer some of the most frequently asked questions.

The Churchyard, Headstones and Tributes

After the funeral, if there has been a burial or interment of cremated remains in the churchyard people will quite often want to apply for a memorial to be modified or added to the grave. Most people are, understandably, unaware that churchyards are subject to the Dicoesan Churchyard Regulations (see below). Amongst other things, these explain the type and form of memorial that the Vicar is able to approve. If the form of memorial is going to be important it is worth having a conversation with the Vicar before any decision is made to to bury or inter in the Churchyard.

We try hard to maintain the Churchyard to a good standard given limited resources. Please do not make our volunteers’ jobs harder by introducing unauthorised objects such as kerb stones, gravel, plastic flowers, gnomes, solar lights etc. The Vicar may lawfully remove any objects that do not have expressed written permission.

Some Useful Documents

  • Funeral Guide – This contains information about planning a funeral, writing a eulogy, readings, music and hymns. It is not a requirement to read it before meeting the Vicar, but you may find it helpful if you are undecided about having a church funeral or as an aide memoire after meeting the Vicar.
  • Diocesan Churchyard Regulations – These regulations, set by the Chancellor of the Diocese (a judge), explain what the Vicar may lawfully permit as a memorial. The Vicar has no authority to ignore these regulations. If you would like a memorial that it outside of these regulations you must apply to the Chancellor, via the Diocesan Registry. There is a fee of £289.00 to petition the Chancellor and other legal fees may be incurred. These are payable irrespective of whether the petition is succesful.